How I Manage Stress and Overwhelm as a Special Needs Parent

As a parent of a child with special needs, I’ve had to redefine how I manage my time and

responsibilities. For me, stress and overwhelm often come from not having the same flexibility that others might have. For instance, when Mr. J is home, it’s not easy to just run to the shops or complete errands. I’ve had to adapt by becoming highly organised and learning to prioritise tasks to ensure what needs to get done actually gets done.

When Mr. J is at school, I focus on errands and tasks that are difficult to manage when he’s

home. Things like grocery shopping, appointments, or any time-consuming tasks are reserved for these windows of time. On the other hand, tasks like dishes, tidying up, or other smaller household chores are left for when he’s home since they can be done in bits and pieces while still being present for him. This balance ensures I make the most of my time without feeling overwhelmed by what’s left undone.

I’ve also learned the importance of saying no and setting boundaries. Not every request or

opportunity needs an immediate yes. By prioritising what’s essential, whether it’s home, kids, or school I ensure that my energy is spent where it matters most.

Finally, I’ve realised how crucial rest is. Whether it’s 10 minutes in the morning or a quick break during the day, taking time to recharge prevents stress from building up and turning into overwhelm. It’s a lesson I’ve had to embrace over time: managing stress isn’t about doing everything; it’s about doing what matters and finding space for myself in between.

XX Joline